I’ve had people ask me if the dreams I’ve posted are ones I’ve actually had or if they were erotica presented as wet dreams. Some people think they’re too coherent, or that I’ve elaborated on a fragment or idea I’ve encountered in slumber. They’re real. As real as dreams can be, anyway. I’ve always had “adventure” dreams, where I’m a spy, saboteur, warrior, renegade, member of an intergalactic space agency, etc. Epics. Most of them proceed in an orderly, semi-logical manner. These don’t occur nightly, but they’re frequent enough; I’d say I’m visited with them about two or three nights a week. Quite a few of them are thematic, i.e., I’m almost always the same undercover agent sussing out industrial secrets in a post-apocalyptic (and totally cool, free-booting) world. I get to wear some really awesome, rubbery bodysuits that are covered with ridiculous gadgets.

A few people have asked if I knew how to have these erotic dreams. I’m not a dream expert, but I believe that you can influence your mind to put out. I’ll explain how I think they come about, then tell you what you can try to get your own kinky dream life. I’ve asked a few of my friends to try the things I’ve recommended and three came through for me. Two of them found their dreams to be more sexually-oriented, the third couldn’t remember any details. I’ve tried it out and was able to successfully seed several ideas into my dream worlds. I like it so much, I’m going to keep trying. This is by no means scientific evidence, but I wanted to see if there might be something to this before I offered it up as even a mere suggestion. If this works for you, awesome! If not, you’ve read this for nothing. Sorry.

I very rarely experience what’s called lucid dreaming, where you’re aware that you’re dreaming and can actually change what’s happening or even take it in an entirely different direction. Most of the time I don’t realize that I’m still asleep, but I can direct the action to a certain extent; replay, prompt a few of the characters, sometimes just “leave” and move on to the next dimension. While my fantasies don’t manifest themselves wholesale, there are bits and pieces of things I’ve thought of throughout the day, or on a regular basis. I’m sure most people have this happen. If you play a lot of chess, you start dreaming about different moves, puzzling out a game in your sleep. If you’re worried about something at work, say a deadline that’s coming up too fast, you’ll sometimes find it incorporating itself in “loopy” dreams that play over and over in your mind; sometimes you’ve missed the deadline, sometimes you’re scrambling like a maniac trying to get everything together. The things you concentrate the most upon or that make a huge impact on you are the very things that your subconscious grabs onto and feeds into your dreams. Knowing this, we now have a starting point. We can nudge our subconscious into giving us what we really want: kinky, weird sex.

If you want to start having erotic dreams, you’re going to have to have a lot of erotic thoughts, and you’re going to have to concentrate on them. It’s easier if you concentrate on a detail, rather than a subject. For example, instead of thinking of oral sex with a woman, and all that that entails, imagine just the feel of her clit on the tip of your tongue. Conjure up as much sensory information as you can, taste, scent, the lighting (is it dim and shadowy or well-lit?), be completely conscious of the silky firmness of her clit and the feel of the surrounding hood on your tongue. You can imagine that you’re sliding your tongue up to push back the hood, or that you’re tapping and circling it with the tip, but go no further than that. What you’re trying to do is create a full-sensory “snapshot” that you’ll look at throughout the day. I know, you’re thinking, I can’t walk around wet/hard all day. If you let your mind follow through on the image, yes, you’ll most likely end up ripping one off in the restroom. Not that that’s a bad thing, nor will it hurt your chances of having a dream encounter. However, if you just “glance” at your snapshot and then carry on with what you’re doing, you shouldn’t experience much more than a little squeeze in your nether regions.

Try thinking of at least two different details, but no more than five. When you have them set in your mind, you’re going to have to incorporate them into your day somehow, and that means linking them to your routine. You can use whatever you like as a reminder, a cryptic post-it note, a slightly phallic-looking rock (kidding) and an apple (one for each snapshot) that you set on your desk. Whenever you glance at these objects, bring up the corresponding mental image, immerse yourself in it, then let it go. Make sure you do this at least a dozen times per image throughout your day and just before you go to sleep. That’s it. Don’t expect to have wet dreams every night or even the first night. It’ll probably take a while for your subconscious to get the hint.

Once in a while I have a hard time remembering what I was dreaming, so I’ve been keeping a dream journal. The idea is a “hack” from Ron Hale-Evans’ book, Mind Performance Hacks, Tips & Tools for Overclocking Your Brain. (Great book, it’s one of my favorites and I highly recommend that you smarties go out and buy it.) The hack is much more detailed, but I’ll give you the gist of it here. All you do is keep a small notebook or just a piece of paper and a pencil on your nightstand. Instead of getting up to immediately write down your dream, or that you hadn’t had one, take mental notes. Probe your mind for any little details or impressions, even make note of emotions. When you’re sure you have the major parts down, get up and write them down. Let your notes run through your mind over and over as you go about getting dressed, showering, and so on. Your dream will likely come back to you bit by bit, and if you’re lucky you’ll remember the whole thing.

Again, this isn’t a how-to article. If you have some success with this, I’d love to hear about it. Feel free to e-mail me or leave a comment. Good night, and sweet, wet dreams.

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